Category Archives: TBI

Attention

I have been starting to notice that when I’m busy, or really focused on something, or trying to get ready for something coming up, my oldest son starts either needing more attention or goes into one of his depression slumps, or both.  It also tends to coincide with him skipping his meds for a day or two.  He refused them last night, and again this morning.  And, no. I don’t mean, I nicely said, “Want your medicine?”  him say, “No.”  to which I nicely say, “OK.”  That’s not how it went.  He claims he took them while his girlfriend was here, but, I don’t think he did every night.  Not the way he’s acting.

Munchkin has a pageant tomorrow.  And, he’s being difficult.  He wanted to go today and we’d stay at his girlfriend’s house tonight.  Yesterday, I told him that’s what we’d do.  And, immediately, he didn’t want to go, because she has to work tonight.  This morning, he says, “I don’t want to go unless I can stay until Monday.” No.  He cannot stay until Monday. She has to work each night, and I can’t stay.  It’s not happening.

Then he decides he doesn’t want his gmail account.  I told him to just ignore he has it, it has something to do with his phone contacts and apps and stuff.  “I don’t even want my phone.”  was his answer.  A little bit later, he comes in, looking at his contacts on his phone, and informing me that it does not have anything to do with it.  Yes. It does. It’s to sign into his google account, that saves his contacts, apps, etc.  and make it so he’s able to get different apps. 

I don’t have time for the arguments.  I have to work, and still have a little bit left to do on munchkin’s outfit for tomorrow!!!!  Middle son’s girlfriend is also going to be in tomorrow’s pageant.  It’s her first one, and she’s been so excited!  We have all of her stuff ready to go, now to finish stoning munchkin’s, and make an anklet.  Oh, also need to figure out what she’s going to wear for crowning. But now, I must go wash his bedding. Again.

I love to sew!

I think I have always known how to sew.  I don’t remember exactly when I learned.  My Mom taught me, she sewed a lot, made some clothing, even did upholstery and made custom drapes for others.  My older sisters also taught me.  I had home ec, but already knew how by then — the teacher’s steps frustrated me!  I made a ton of clothes when the older kids were little, even did a lot for others.  Then, I got burnt out, and hadn’t sewn for years.  Now I’m sewing again, and find it relaxing in the evenings to make things for the munchkin and her baby doll. She gets really excited when she sees that her baby has a matching dress. I’m not going to let myself get talked into things for others and get burnt out again.  I’m in a sew along group on facebook.  Last month’s was fun, this month would be funner if I didn’t have so much other stuff going on.  I need to step back, and remind myself that it’s supposed to be fun, and quit worrying about it, if a certain days steps don’t get done on that day, Oh, Well!! 

The oldest boy got upset with me again on Friday.  I went grocery shopping, and couldn’t take him.  It was one of those “We are out of EVERYTHING” trips that took several hours, and I knew it was going to.  I told him I’d take him the next day, and we’d go wherever he wanted, and we could take munchkin to the park to ride the carousel, and he agreed.  Yesterday, was a different story.  He didn’t want to go anywhere, and just kept saying he wanted to go the day before so he could help me.  I cannot push both his chair and the cart, and keep up with the 2 year old, not when the cart is going to be as full as I can get it!  And, I knew the trip was going to take several hours, so therefore, longer than what he’d be able to use his walker for the whole time.  (Selfish moment – not to mention he walks very very very slowly)  I will ask him several times again today, and try to get him to go somewhere.  Sooner or later, he’ll get tired of listening to me, and agree to go!  hahahaha

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Of, course.

My oldest son rarely leaves the house. It usually takes quite a bit of coaxing to get him to go. I was very proud of him yesterday, he went with me twice! Once to run errands, and again to go to his aunt’s house. Today, I just had to run in to get a tag for his younger brother’s car. Didn’t even think of asking him, who wants to go to tag agency?? Now he’s mad at me because I left without him.

I do have to say, last week, he went and ran errands with me one day, even got out of the car. We both decided that he should do that more, gets out of house, plus good therapy. But, he had refused to go most days since then.

Today will get better!

The Munchkin decided to get up very early this morning.  Much earlier than she ever gets up!! (Unless we’re going to a pageant!)  Daddy had just gotten up, and she decided she needed Daddy, so out of bed we go. At 6:30.

We get out to the kitchen, coffee wasn’t even started yet!!  So, I went to make coffee. And stuck to the floor.  I think it was jelly completely covering the kitchen floor.  So, I grab closest cleaner, and start spraying and scrubbing so I can get to the coffee pot.  Yes. Coffee was really all that was on my mind! Daddy came out of the bathroom, and he wasn’t happy.  It turns out the oldest had stayed up all night. Again.  Dad found him just a little while ago, sitting on the wood floor, in front of his wheelchair, beside his bed, in a pool of pee. The oldest showed up while I was scrubbing.  I asked him what was all over the floor, and he doesn’t remember.  It’s all over his leg, too.  I could tell it was jelly.  I am just somewhat amazed that he doesn’t remember what it is, or how it got all over.

I don’t know why he occasionally he will decide to stay up all night.  It throws him completely out of whack when he does, and takes several days or weeks to get him back into a regular sleep routine. Why can he not see that he functions much better when he gets enough sleep??????

 

On a much brighter note – I am getting a car today!  Pontiac G6 GT to be exact!  Spur of the moment, we haven’t even been car shopping, in fact, I’ve been telling The Love of My Life that I was fine driving the oldest’s pick up for another year or so, that I really didn’t want a car payment.  But, one of his co-workers is selling his,  My Love asked me repeatedly, I got too tempted, and my banker didn’t help when he told me what payments would be, and that we should do it!

Before the wreck, when we were discussing and starting to look for a bigger everyday vehicle for me, not too seriously looking, I LOVED my s10, and really wasn’t looking forward to changing, but, a car seat wouldn’t fit in it.  I did want a G6, but The Love of My Life didn’t.  We also hadn’t decided whether to trade in the s10, or keep it and let him play with it and turn it into a hot rod.  The oldest was driving my s10 when he fall asleep at the wheel. He still doesn’t want a G6, but, he keeps telling me it doesn’t matter, because I’m the one driving it, not him, and it’s what I wanted when we were somewhat car shopping. It does have a couple of things wrong with it, but, nothing major, and My Love can fix it. So, in about an hour or so, I get to go to the bank and sign papers for another monthly payment. Yay?????